There are many misconceptions about introverts. A common one is that introversion and shyness are essentially the same thing. In fact if you Google ‘introverted definition’ you’ll see shy as the first synonym.
But psychologically speaking, being an introvert is not the same as being shy.
What Is Introversion?
Introverts tend to be easily overstimulated by external environments, people, noise, lights, etc.
They therefore prefer quiet and solitude.
What Is Shyness?
By contrast shy people fear how they’ll be judged by others.
Consequently they tend to be reticent about putting themselves out there where people may form a negative opinion about them.
Can You Be Both?
There is definite overlap, where people are both introverted and shy, though the extent of the overlap remains unclear.
Venn Diagrams To The Rescue
If you love Venn Diagrams – and honestly, who doesn’t? – then you’ll be happy to know that a handy explanatory Venn Diagram follows.
As the Venn Diagram shows:
- Some people (me included) are introverted but not shy – we aren’t especially worried about others’ negative opinions but we do like our quiet and solitude.
- Some people are shy but not introverted – not particularly vulnerable to external stimulation but concerned about how they are judged and cautious about exposing themselves to judgement.
- Some people are both shy and introverted. This is the overlapping part, the intersection.
- People not falling into any of the above categories are neither introverted nor shy.
Where Do You Sit?
So where do you sit? Shy? Introverted? Both? Neither?
Has this post reawakened your long-forgotten love of Venn Diagrams? If so, I’ll leave you guys alone…
Hmmm I always thought I was a bit of both. I tend to call myself a shy introvert. I like time to myself but also like catching up with friends. But I find when I have too much on over a week or two, I feel drained and need/want to do nothing. 🙂
Isn’t it great to become aware of your preferences, Julie? Then you can manage your energy better and enjoy both your social AND alone time more. 🙂
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At one point I called myself an “introverted extrovert” (an introvert that is not shy). 😛
Hey Kevin, that’s me too – an introvert who’s not shy! 🙂
Hi again. I am getting very chatty for introvert. Which just proves that I am not shy. At all. I am so not shy, that sometimes I thing that may be there is something wrong with me. But it took me very long time to realise that I behave in certain ways because I prefer to be by my self that surrounded by people. First my parents “labeled” me as shy. And what did I know to argue with them. I accepted it and this stayed with me for a very long time. I even acted it. When everybody around you tells you that you are shy, you start to believe it. Now I am at a point of my life, when I begin to accept my self the way I am. And as I said, I am so not shy, that I am almost shameless. But I am introvert.
On the other hand I have a friend, who is extrovert (extreme extrovert in my opinion), but she is very shy. Sometimes it is almost painful to look at the battles that she has with herself.
Oh yeah Keti, those labels can really affect how we see ourselves! And, as you say, how we act. One of my themes on this blog is to use an understanding of introversion to BROADEN our lives, to cultivate our strengths, rather to let ‘introvert’ be a label that limits our resilience and happiness.