"Compared to extraverts, [introverts have] a higher baseline level of arousal, and use more mental resources in scanning and processing external stimuli"
You Wanna Go Where Nobody Knows Your Name
Another odd thing is, when I hit introvert overload and crave space, sometimes I perversely want to be with people – but people who don’t want anything from me. People who don’t know me and won’t make noise around me or ask questions of me or expect any kind of interaction from me. And, as someone who worries about everyone I love, people I don’t have to worry about.
And you know where I find these people?
In books and on TV. These are two of my very favourite ways to recharge and feel human again. The relationships I’ve forged with fictional characters are surprisingly strong. In my head Lorelei Gilmore is and probably always will be my best friend. And I’ve never really gotten over the loss of the deep and powerful connections I made with the gang in Buffy.
What also works for me is nerdy stuff like learning French and doing the crossword.
What all these ways of recharging have in common is they allow me to be alone and enjoy solitude, while also filling my mind with pleasant and engaging distraction so I’m not overthinking or ruminating or fantastrophizing.
How To Recharge If You’re An Introvert – Dos And Don’ts
Okay, so how about you? What are some good ways for you to recharge when you’re suffering from introvert overload?
Here are some tips…
- Do try to schedule regular introvert-battery-recharging sessions so you always have a little oasis of solitude to look forward to. Maybe one day someone will invent the All-Peopled-Out Safe Word App, but for now you need to be proactive about making time.
- Don’t expect conventionally relaxing activities to work for you. Massages, facials, and spa treatments in particular can leave you trapped in a chit-chat vortex from which there’s no escape unless you’re prepared to run screaming from the room dressed in paper slippers and a towel.
- Do look for activities that give you pleasure. I complete the crossword each morning while I have breakfast and it’s crazy how happy it makes me. You don’t just want alone time, you wantpleasurable alone time.
- Don’t leave it too long between mini battery-charging sessions. I read every single night in bed. See the next section for ideas for short recharging spells.
- Do negotiate with loved ones for the time you need. I’ve asked my husband to spend alternate Fridays in his co-share office so I can work at home or do whatever is on my agenda all alone. And ask from a place of self-acceptance, not apology.
- Don’t feel guilty. You’ll be a happier, calmer, better friend/spouse/parent/relative/workmate when you’re no longer feeling overwhelmed and overstimulated from introvert overload.
Don’t expect conventionally relaxing activities to work for you. Massages, facials, and spa treatments in particular can leave you trapped in a chit-chat vortex from which there’s no escape unless you’re prepared to run screaming from the room dressed in paper slippers and a towel.
16 Introvert Battery-Charger Ideas
Here are some ideas you could try:
- Watch a favourite TV show
- Listen to an inspiring playlist
- Treat yourself to your favourite cake at a cafe
- Write in a pretty notebook
- Plan a goal or project
- Listen to an audiobook
- Do a crossword puzzle
- People-watch at a cafe
- Go to a movie by yourself
- Take a drive and sing along with the radio
- Sip coffee or tea while appreciating a moment alone
- Do a mindfulness practice
- Feel grateful
- Learn something
- Read a novel
- Go for a walk
Got more introvert battery-charger tips or ideas? Please share them in the comments.